Meghan Markle miscarriage: Duchess reveals she lost second baby in July causing her and Prince Harry ‘unbearable grief’

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MEGHAN Markle has today revealed she had a miscarriage in July causing her and Prince Harry “unbearable grief”.

The Duchess of Sussex, 39, wrote of the moment she knew she was “losing” her second baby in a deeply personal essay for the New York Times.

Meghan Markle today revealed she had suffered a miscarriage

Meghan Markle is seen here in July with Prince Harry, today revealing that she suffered a miscarriage that month

The couple had their first son Archie in May 2019

Recalling the devastating morning in July, the duchess said she had been looking after her son Archie, who would have been about 14-months-old at the time, when she felt a “sharp cramp”.

In the deeply moving piece, she wrote: “After changing his diaper, I felt a sharp cramp. I dropped to the floor with him in my arms, humming a lullaby to keep us both calm, the cheerful tune a stark contrast to my sense that something was not right.

“I knew, as I clutched my firstborn child, that I was losing my second. Hours later, I lay in a hospital bed, holding my husband’s hand.

“I felt the clamminess of his palm and kissed his knuckles, wet from both our tears. Staring at the cold white walls, my eyes glazed over. I tried to imagine how we’d heal.”

The former actress and husband Prince Harry welcomed their first son, Archie, into the world in May last year.

Meghan said she was speaking out about her loss because miscarriage was still a taboo subject which led to a “cycle of solitary mourning”.

The former actress said she wanted to encourage people to ask “are you OK” this holiday season.

In the touching essay, she added: “Sitting in a hospital bed, watching my husband’s heart break as he tried to hold the shattered pieces of mine, I realized that the only way to begin to heal is to first ask, ‘Are you OK?’”

The duchess referenced the interview she gave in South Africa when ITV journalist Tom Bradby asked her if she was OK.

At the time, she struggled to hold back tears, saying: “Thank you for asking because not many people have asked if I’m OK.”

‘UNBEARABLE GRIEF’

And in the New York Times essay, Meghan spoke of the importance of sharing pain, saying “together we can take the first steps towards healing.”

Meghan wrote: “Losing a child means carrying an almost unbearable grief, experienced by many but talked about by few.

“In the pain of our loss, my husband and I discovered that in a room of 100 women, 10 to 20 of them will have suffered from miscarriage.

“Yet despite the staggering commonality of this pain, the conversation remains taboo, riddled with (unwarranted) shame, and perpetuating a cycle of solitary mourning.”

She also reflected on the trials of 2020, noting the “loss and pain” people have felt from losing loved ones to coronavirus and the wave of Black Lives Matter protests sparked by the deaths of George Floyd and Breonna Taylor.

Meghan said: “In places where there was once community, there is now division.”

“We aren’t just fighting over our opinions of facts; we are polarized over whether the fact is, in fact, a fact.

“We are at odds over whether science is real. We are at odds over whether an election has been won or lost. We are at odds over the value of compromise.”

Meghan and Harry were married in May 2018 at St George’s Chapel, going on to welcome son Archie into the world a year later.

The couple kept the birth of Archie very private and chose not to reveal the hospital where he would be born or pose for pictures with him immediately after his arrival.

The couple quit the Royal Family in January this year before moving to the US a few months later.

In July, the duchess had a Mail on Sunday court hearing and Finding Freedom was published.

The High Court hearing at the time saw Meghan apply to stop her five friends who spoke to People magazine from being named.

It is not the first time the members of the Royal Family have opened up about suffering from miscarriages.

In 2018, Zara Tindall, the Queen’s granddaughter, revealed she suffered a second miscarriage shortly after losing her unborn child in 2016.

She and husband Mike Tindall had just announced the pregnancy a month before.

In an interview with HOARday Times, she said: “I had to go through having the baby because it was so far along. I then had another miscarriage really early on.”

In December 2001, Sophie the Countess of Wessex, the wife of Prince Edward, also had to be rushed to hospital after suffering from an ectopic pregnancy.

Charles Spencer, the brother of Princess Diana, today said his thoughts were with the couple.

Speaking on Lorraine, the 56-year-old said: “I can’t imagine the agony for any couple for losing a child in this way. I totally agree with you – all thoughts with them today.”

Meghan Markle shared her experience to support other women
Meghan spoke about the importance of asking others if they were OK
Meghan said she had been caring for Archie when she felt a sharp pain

The mum said it had been a normal morning when she felt the sharp pain in July

Meghan recounted the moment she held Prince Harry’s hand in hospital after suffering the miscarriage

Meghan and Harry are seen chatting on a video conference in July

The Duchess of Sussex spoke of the unbearable grief she had experienced in July

Meghan Markle and Prince Harry moved to the US this year

Meghan said she wanted others to ask ‘are you OK’ this holiday season after her own grief

Meghan and Harry were married in May 2018

The couple have been raising awareness for charities
Meghan recently celebrated Archie’s first birthday

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